On a regular basis, I am in contact with a lot of young men and women, those who are in similar life condition like I am. Finished studying, married, with young children, difficult family situations and rising careers. And I see men and women go through a crisis situation where they are doing things out of compulsion, family pressures and society...and then they sit and wonder 'Can I have it All?'
We are all driven off energies, wasted by the end of the day. Most of them drained due to this question and the cycle of guilt, anger, frustration taints a lot of young minds and they feel aged at 30!
A lot of self introspection, meditation and spirituality has taken shape into this piece of blog today.
The problem solving has to begin with the right question. What is the 'ALL' that you want. Why we remain so vested in finding the ALL instead of defining for yourself. You see a successful business woman, a banker, a CEO or a successful doctor and in your brain that is fed by the definition of ALL. So you want to be loved and famous for what you do. But the problem is we invest our happiness into it and make ourselves dependent on it for being happy.
We forget that we are responsible for our happiness and not a person, thing, position or object. So when our child behaves well we are happy, when he does not we are irritable and sad. When work is good we are happy and we diffuse if we have a tough boss, situation or colleagues. Similarly, when everyday the spouse or inlaws are good we fail to acknowledge and one wrong move and our internal being breaks down and shreds apart the relationship.
This is where lies the problem. Like in a case study or analysis, there are multiple factors that are looked into to find the conclusion, similarly for each day's analysis, we should not conclude before we put all the multiple factors together.
When we start adsorbing the positives the overall analysis will become positive. So when in a difficult work situation, think of the good colleagues and supportive family. In a difficult family situation, think of the past relationships that have made you this strong and how you have good friends and neighbours to tackle difficult situations. The attraction to positivity will make things bend towards positivity. Its not going to make a sick child better, or give you a promotion or make your spouse less mad at you. What it will do is make you reason things better and give happiness.
So next time when you ask yourself ''Can I Have It All?''...reply to yourself, Yes, I can have it all, loving parents, siblings, spouse, children, family, house, tea in the evenings, walk in the park, appreciation of the colours and sounds of nature, a wonderful dream job, love and respect for doing the right in life. You can Have It All...Just Define the ALL for yourself!
